One year ago today…
Sunday, March 7th, 2010One year ago today I began my 1500 mile, 16 day ride from Jacksonville, FL to Holliston, MA. I had no guidance, no distance riding experience, and no idea what to expect. The only thing I knew for sure was that it was going to hurt like hell. Looking back on it now I have no clue what I was thinking. I had never ridden more than 80 miles in one day and 150 in two days. Based on the first week I had planned I was riding over 100 miles every day. Luckily I didn’t realize the stupidity of my plan until it was too late to turn back.
My ignorance proved to be the best thing that happened to me. If I had known the immense pain my knee would be in on day 4 with every turn of the pedal, or the weather we battle through on day 7, or the climbs I had to ride up in PA, or the pure exhaustion I would experience every night, then the odds are that I probably would have been sleeping in my bed until 11 AM on the first day of spring break. At many points during the ride that is exactly what I wish I had chosen to do. Fortunately for me the ride was A. extremely fun B. Only 2 weeks, and C. helping a cause that was very important to me. These three things kept me going every day. While I hated being asked “Did thinking about what your mom went through keep you going?” thinking of her certainly was the reason I kept going. However, I can’t say thinking about the miserable things she experienced was what kept me going. What kept me going was thinking about the times prior to her treatment, the moments that I would always remember having with her. Whether it was playing cards with her at 3 AM in the morning because we couldn’t sleep or her yelling at me to clean my room and do my homework, these were the thoughts that kept the pedals turning.
My mom, my family, and I were very lucky that we are able to enjoy these moments together. She was extremely fortunate to be diagnosed and treated successfully very quickly. If the diagnosis had been made just a couple months later then she may not have been able to tell her she was proud of me for doing my own laundry today at college (without the help of Aislinn). Many were and are not as fortunate as my family and I have been. Whatever you believe to be the reason for it, she was given a second chance at life through a number of different events that took place throughout her illness. My goal for my ride was to hopefully give somebody else, even if only one person, the gift that my mother received. I will probably never know if my ride had any direct effect at all, but I’d like to believe that it helped somebody in the way that many others helped my mom.
Initially we wanted to raise $10,000 and raise awareness for the disease. We wanted people to hear the word “Amyloidosis”, maybe even know something about it. Too many doctors have never heard of the disease. Had it not been for a newspaper article about a woman with the disease that my mom brought to her doctor, she may have never been diagnosed. We hoped that people would at least know the name of the disease so that they could someday be their own advocate. The outcome, as many of you know, was far different than the expectations that we had. We ended up raising over $55,000 for research and hundreds of people who had never heard of the disease could now tell someone else something about it. Sometimes I like to pretend I actually did something significant for this rare disease. Every time I think about it, however, I come back to the same conclusion. That is that all I did was ride my bike from Florida to MA.
From day 1 I had all the help anybody could ask for in the world. I asked Aislinn to sacrifice her entire Spring Break to support me with anything I needed, she did it without complaint. I asked my friend Brad to make me a website for free; He made one of the best websites I have ever seen in his spare time. I asked my friends to help spread the word to their friends; they spread the world to their entire town. These people did everything for me, while I just rode my bike (something I love to do). People I barely knew were helping me raise money, spread the word, buying t-shirts, offering places to stay, the generosity never ended. There is a reason we exceed our goal by $40,000 and it was because of the support that people provided. The generosity of my small school in central MA, of my friends, or my cycling team, of family friends, and from my family was just unbelievable. I learned and took more than I gave turning this trip. I was shown the natural goodness in people, the difference people can make when they care, and how important family and friends are to me.
My ride was a once in a lifetime thing. As I sit here in bed typing this I ache to be in Georgia with my cousin Andrew, my Aunt Judy, and Aislinn again. There are very few times in life, however, when you’re given the opportunity to do something that you care about. I was fortunate to have two full weeks of spring break and the full support of my family, school, and friends. Just as my mom was presented with an opportunity when she read the article about Amyloidosis, I was presented with an opportunity last year. My mom took a risky treatment to help save her life; I stupidly convinced myself I could ride 1500 miles in 2 weeks. My mom was terrified of the result of the treatment and what would happened to her; I was terrified of not being able to complete the ride and letting everyone who had helped me so much down by failing to complete the ride. Some doctors tried to convince my mom that the treatment she was about to undergo was too risky; my parents tried to convince me that I was being stupid. Too many people are afraid of doing something because they are worried about what others say or are worried they cannot do it. For years I lived under this umbrella and I was scared to death of what my parents would say when I told them about my plan. As expected they initially shut me down. Thanks to the support I had they had no choice but to say yes in the end. I don’t think they regret that decision to this day. So I encourage anyone who has listened to me ramble, listened to me talk about my ride, and pretend I did something greater than I did, to not be scared of doing something they believe in. I had this idea one night when I was bored in October less than 6 months later we raised $55,000. I had the idea and the rest was everybody else’s doing. Take a risk with an idea you have, ask for help from your friends, and start brainstorming; once you do that you have no idea what could happen. A silly idea you have one night could make a world of a difference to someone you have never met. A year after my ride that is all I hope I was able to accomplish.




